Okay the sisters say the problem is that the brothers are 'all dogs', don't respect women and are only interested in sex. The brothers say the only way to keep the sisters interested is to treat them like ‘hoes’ or else the sisters will get bored, think they're 'soft' , play them and find a ‘harder’ brother.
The African brothers and sisters say 'African Americans'(I don't like that adjective, but more on that later) have no culture, respect or sense of community. African Americans say Africans are 'stuck up', arrogant and therefore 'shouldn't be bothered with'.
White people are firmly convinced that Black people have no sense of love or commitment and only care about having as much sex with as many people as possible (With Asians seconding the motion).
Everybody agrees that Black Men prefer White Women (or Hispanic or Black Women that look as White as possible) and Black Women have 'too much attitude' and that’s why they 'have all those problems'.
Now I'm just paraphrasing what many of you have told me in person after the first post. Did I get it right?
Maybe your words are best said, if you say them yourself (hint, hint…).
-JKW
P.S – That’s another original JKW quote, trademark pending ;-)
2 comments:
Many women say that men are dogs, just want sex, and have no sense of commitment what-so-ever. What about the ladies though? There exists a BS notion that all women are good and all men are bad, that most men cheat and most women suffer, and so on. Folks, women run just as much game as men do and play innocent. We are just better at hiding it from you and not getting caught. Regardless of race, there is good and bad in both women and men.
There are a few things I would like to address, to the brothers that say the only way to keep women interested is to treat them like ‘hoes’, all I have to say is that is one of the most ignorant things I have ever heard. A guy like that deserves a bitch. With that attitude, you will never find a good woman. If you do, you just lucked out or you’ll be the reason why she turns into a resentful, hurt woman. What a fool, that person would be the same guy that accuses black women of having too much attitude. Grow up and act like a real man or get out…. lots of credit to any woman who doesn’t wasn’t to take crap for no reason.
Regarding the statement that black men just want sex, to some extent the belief is somewhat true. As an Asian, regardless of if the man is black or white, we are considered the exotic females and we are severely objectified. Most guys do want to have sex with us, but we are not black enough to be accepted among black people or white enough to be accepted among white people. Many want to have sex with us, do have sex with us, but don’t want to take us home to family and friends. So about wanting sex all the time, we think the same thing about white people as we do black people. The perception is more towards Americans in general regardless of what race of American.
Now about the sense of love or commitment within the black community, that’s a tough one. There is almost like a negative backlash to love and commitment. We live in a time where many influential black Americans don’t put as much importance on love or commitment or it is just not publicly shown. Most young people today, think it is not cool… if you’re faithful then your whipped, if you’re committed then your dissin’ the boys. Most of us, don’t know what a healthy relationship is. Not all of us have two parents to learn from, and some of us that do, our parents have bad marriages and they can’t teach us anything either. Every individual knows what is right and what is wrong. If anything hinders the black community or any urban family (like mine), know that we choose to live the way we do, we do know better, we know how to maybe even do it. We just got to stand up and start doing what is right. We all know cheating is bad, we know beating is bad, and we know generally what to do and what not to do.... We just don’t care.
I personally have never fallen for the stereotypical "all men are dogs" theory, from what I can see with my own two eyes women tend to pick the "dogs" out of the pool. I know many men who I know are intelligent, humorous and ambitious so I don't believe there is a lack of "good men" around or even believe that they are all taken. We women need to stop pointing fingers and blaming others for the hurt and pain we're holding onto. We all make choices in life, which means we all choose who we date and if we find ourselves dating the "dogs" then maybe its time to try something different.
One of my favorite quotes ...
"If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it."
~Mary Engelbreit
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